The Lyon family, continuing Sharon’s legacy through the Tree of Life and dedicating a light in her memory

“Every member of staff showed love and care not just to Sharon but also to us as a family. Their kindness touched our hearts and really made the whole unbearable situation easier.”

It has been eleven years since we lost our sister, daughter, mum, and great friend Sharon. She lit up a room and her presence in our family is constantly missed. Christmas in particular, is always a lot quieter without her.

When Sharon was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, it was the worst news we could have imagined, and we will never know how she coped with it in such a brave and dignified way. She died only 4 weeks after her diagnosis, in St Barnabas Hospice on the 27th November 2011, aged just 42. Sharon with her daughters

The care she received was first class and nothing was too much trouble. Every member of staff showed love and care, not just to Sharon, but also to us as a family. Their kindness touched our hearts and really made the whole unbearable situation easier.

Sharon was a enormous Christmas fan, and she would buy the most hideous talking, walking musical toys that she could find! The presents that she bought for people had so much thought put into them, it was the highlight of Christmas waiting to see what she had bought. She truly loved the festive season and fully embraced the lovingly chaotic nature of a big family Christmas!

Our family business, S. Lyon & Son Haulage, has been involved in Light Up a Life and the Torchlight Procession for over a decade, supporting St Barnabas in transporting their Tree of Life from the field to Lincoln Cathedral. Each year the tree, with all its lights, brings comfort to people of all ages, which is why we continue to support the Hospice in this way.

This Christmas, please join us in remembering your loved ones in a celebration of light. We invite you to dedicate your light so those who have left us can shine brightly on St Barnabas Hospice’s
beautiful Tree of Life outside Lincoln Cathedral. A donation of £37.32 would cover the cost of one hour specialist nursing care at the hospice just like Sharon received.

The whole family take solace in the incredible care that Sharon received from St Barnabas during her stay in the Hospice for the last two weeks of her life. She loved watching the X-Factor, the
nurses always ensured it was on for her. The staff at the Hospice helped Sharon’s friends to paint her nails and when she wanted hot baths to ease her pain, it was never too much trouble. Even
when we got her home to have dinner with everyone, she asked to go back to the Hospice as this is where she felt safe.

A supporter of St Barnabas in the years before her passing, Sharon would organise a “guess the bear’s name” challenge at the S. Lyon & Son Haulage office, making sure all employees, family and friends participated.

Sharon had so much love for everyone – never judging and always kind. She also loved animals, especially cats and horses, but her greatest love was reserved for her children Jade and Millie, who she called Puppy and Moo! She was the kindest, most thoughtful person and was a true free spirit that didn’t follow the crowd.

Every year we dedicate a light to her, the anniversary of Sharon’s death is usually the same week as the Tree of Life is lit, it brings us comfort to know her light shines bright during this time.

Please join us in shining a light to remember someone special this Christmas. You can remember anyone with a light, not just those cared for by the Hospice. As a thank you and token for your loved one, St Barnabas will send you a personalised card and special tree decoration in the post and the opportunity to attend the breath-taking Torchlight Procession on 22nd November.

St Barnabas Hospice is celebrating its 40th year, supporting the people of Lincolnshire in their most difficult times. Their services are offered free of charge but to continue to deliver this outstanding care, they need to raise over £6million each year. Your donation will help St Barnabas to be there and provide the compassionate and dignified care to people like Sharon.

Sharon was comfortable and safe in the last weeks of her beautiful life, and we cannot thank the St Barnabas nurses and staff enough. We know she would have been so pleased that we continue to support the Hospice, as she took great pride in being part of the team to make the Tree of Life happen each year and it is our way of continuing her legacy.

To dedicate a light online, please visit StBarnabasHospice.co.uk/light-up-a-life 

Thank you so much for taking the time to read our story.

Ruby cuts long locks for charity that looked after Grandad Ray

Eight-year-old Ruby Reynolds recently braved a haircut of her beautiful long hair to raise money for St Barnabas Hospice to thank the nurses for looking after her grandfather Ray during the last weeks of his life.

She donated £230 to the Hospice so it may continue to support patients who need compassionate, dignified palliative and end-of-life care.

Ray Nicholson was diagnosed with cancer in March 2016 and died just over a month later in his own home, surrounded by his loving family. Ruby was only two years old at the time but often speaks of her grandfather and wanted to thank the nurses who looked after him. Young girl with black hairdressers smock sitting as hairdresser cuts her hair

Ruby decided to grow her hair long during the first lockdown to eventually cut it for charity and had been planning the haircut for over two years before finally getting her long-awaited haircut on 24th September.

Ruby’s mother Lisa says: “Ruby was really excited about having ‘a bob with bangs’. A hairdresser at our usual salon cut her hair free of charge as it was for such a good cause. As soon as they made the first cut, she was just smiling!

“She donated the hair to The Little Princess Trust so has made every effort to help as many people as possible. Because we live in Sheffield, Ruby donated half of the donations to a hospice here that looked after her father’s uncle when he died. In total she raised £470, and I couldn’t be prouder. This has also earned her a charity badge at Brownies!”

Elderly silver haired man wearing striped blue shirt holding a baby in a light green blanket Lisa remembers her father Ray as a quiet family man, who enjoyed watching motor racing on TV and worked until he got ill at the age of 72. In March 2016, Ray went into Louth hospital with breathlessness where he was diagnosed with Primary Metastatic Lung Cancer that had spread to his bones.

Lisa says: “Dad came home after a week in hospital and was cared for by my mum and the nurses at St Barnabas along with Marie Curie nurses if we needed them during the night. Dad sadly passed away on 25th April 2016.

“The care that my dad and my family received was amazing, they cared for him with dignity. He was a very proud man and would have hated any fuss. They not only cared for my dad and kept him comfortable, but they also looked after my Mum and even came to see her after my dad had passed away to make sure that she was OK and offered lots of aftercare. We would not have got through it without them.

“The day they told us that dad only had a few hours left to live was handled very delicately. We trusted that he was always in the best possible hands – all we could have wanted.”

Elderly man with young child on lap at brown table

To honour her dad and support Ruby, Lisa took on a challenge of her own, running the Sheffield 10k on 25th September, one day after Ruby’s haircut.

On this achievement, Lisa says: “I hardly trained and had Covid two weeks before, so it was a tough challenge. My chest was very painful, and I didn’t think I could do it, but I did – for Ruby and for my dad. I saw my family at the finish line and there were lots of tears to know that we had achieved something amazing!”

Thank you, Ruby and Lisa, for your kind donation to St Barnabas Hospice, which supports over 12,000 people living with a life-limiting or terminal illness, their families, and carers across Lincolnshire each year.

If you would like to make a donation to St Barnabas, please visit: https://stbarnabashospice.co.uk/donate/

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“I’m not ready to come to the party yet!”

Celia Wilson recalls her positive experience with St Barnabas Hospice who cared for her mother Connie in the Inpatient Unit in Lincoln during the final week of her life.

Constance Veronica Stenton (Connie) was Lincoln born and bred, with a loving and caring nature. Celia remembers her with a “silly sense of humour” and the two enjoyed good laughs, even when Connie was in chronic pain.

Laughing woman with silver hair, glasses and blue - white dress, with two young children making funny faces Connie looked after her husband, Celia’s father, from 1992 until he died in 1995 when he was ill – all the while she was suffering from cancer.

Celia says: “Mum was a very strong lady who always put her family first and loved us unconditionally. When I visited her house, I always went home with cakes, pies and sometimes marmalade that she had made. She enjoyed her beautiful cottage-style garden which was always full of gorgeous flowers and loved sitting out there in the sun with a cup of tea and a Cathrine Cookson book.

“She fought cancer for 25 years and we were devastated when she told us that nothing more could be done for her. I had always had a very close relationship with her, so it hit me really hard. My sister-in-law Pam nursed Mum for some months before she went to the St Barnabas Inpatient Unit, it meant so much to me that she would do that while I was unable to because of work commitments.

“Mum received excellent care from the amazing staff, I remember a nurse gently spoon-feeding Mum with raspberry ripple ice cream, which made Mum smile.

“9th October 1997 is the day she died at the age of 78. There had been a big bumble bee on the bed table that didn’t move at all until Mum took her last breath. Then, the bee flew once around the bed and out of the window. My sister-in-law and I both thought that Dad had come back to collect her. Dad died two years before and in her last few days Mum kept saying “I’m not ready to come to the party yet!”

Woman and man with silver hair, the woman wears glasses and a red top, the man on the right a white shirt. White banner underneath and in blue text "Connie and her husband"

“There was a nurse in the room with us and she was so kind and understanding. The staff always had the time to make us feel comforted in our difficult time, which really helped us.

“It has now been 25 years and I still miss Mum, but I know she was looked after well by caring staff who did their very best to make her comfortable before she joined Dad.”

The St Barnabas Hospice on Nettleham Road in Lincoln is currently closed for refurbishment and is set to reopen for patients in November. Our Inpatient Units in Lincoln and Grantham help around 300 people needing end-of-life care each year, with £37.32 covering the cost of one hour of specialist inpatient care.

If you are able to donate and support the Hospice in its mission to keep delivering dignified, compassionate care to those who need it in your community, please make a donation via our website: https://stbarnabashospice.co.uk/donate/

For every £1 we raise, 74p goes towards delivering and improving the care we provide. The other 26p goes towards generating future income.

Upcoming HeART Trail supports heart patients like Lisa

Lisa Hartley from Spalding has heart failure and has been receiving support from St Barnabas Hospice since 2020.

After a longstanding spinal injury, Lisa suffered from a heart attack, meningitis, a brain swell, and she contracted sepsis twice over the course of two years. All these issues combined gave her chronic heart failure, leaving her bedridden.

Whilst in the hospital, Lisa received the devastating news that she only had 48 hours left to live. Against all odds, her condition improved enough for her to be out of immediate danger, but her doctors told her that there was nothing more they could do for her.Woman with short blonde hair and hospital gown holding zimmer frame

However, her heart nurse suggested Lisa get in touch with St Barnabas for support in early 2020. The decision to accept this suggestion has changed her life drastically.

Lisa says: “I was given 48 hours to live but instead, I walked out of the hospital two weeks later to a home that I didn’t think I would see again.

“St Barnabas gives me medical care, as well as counselling on a weekly basis, and help with my mobility. Over the years, they have provided me with a powered wheelchair, a ramp for the house and other specialist furniture to improve my day-to-day. I was even given advice on improving my family’s financial situation, which had been worrying me further.”

A true animal-lover, Lisa owns three horses including 26-year-old Monty, a stallion with the calm and sweet temperament of a dog, as well as a terminal heart condition like his owner. During her long battle with her condition, Lisa’s wish was to ride Monty again, after not being able to get in the saddle for over 18 months.

Lisa says: “It was through Zoe’s physio that I was able to get back to riding after being poorly for so long. She knew that my aim was to get back on Monty, and that’s what happened. It’s people like that, they don’t realise that the job they do gives so much back to others.

“Monty needs me to keep going, and I want to keep going. I’m not ready to give in yet!”

The upcoming HeART Trail, a heart-shaped sculpture art trail set to launch in summer 2023, raises awareness for St Barnabas Hospice and the care it provides to patients with heart conditions, like Lisa.

Final Heart Trail flag ship heart, completed with paint

These beautiful “HeARTworks” can be enjoyed by the whole community, and the aim is to have 40 sculptures up and down the county – from the vibrant city of Lincoln across the rolling Wolds to the East Coast, and as far as our beautiful town of Stamford.

For St Barnabas to launch the Trail, £300,000 must be raised through sponsorship.

Lisa says: “There are so many local businesses that could possibly help this amazing charity that has been going for 40 years. I know money is tight for everybody but please give to a charity that gives so much to so many others.

“It would be fantastic to see a HeART appear in the Spalding area where I live, so I’d love for Spalding businesses and organisations to get involved.”

To find out more about the HeART Trail and become a sponsor, visit: www.stbarnabashospice.co.uk/hearttrail

Lisa says: “It’s now over two and a half years since I first got support from St Barnabas. It has not been an easy journey; I currently take 76 pills a day and my health and overall wellbeing change daily.

“But thanks to St Barnabas, I can visit Monty and my other horses regularly, look after them at the stables and ride when I feel well enough. It is through this care, that I can keep on being me.”

Original Baron donated to Inpatient Unit in Lincoln

Lincoln residents Lynda Quartey and Andrew Grimes have donated an original Baron, named Sir Walter, to St Barnabas Hospice to bring cheer to visitors to the Inpatient Unit on Nettleham Road in Lincoln.

They are donating the Baron as a thank-you to St Barnabas for caring for Lynda’s daughter Maria in the same Inpatient Unit in during the last month of her life. She died on 27th January 2015, after a battle with breast cancer aged 41.

The Inpatient Unit is currently closed for refurbishment and is set to reopen in November 2022, fully modernised and with many new features – including the donated Baron in the reception area.

Lynda and Andrew bought the Baron, hand painted by artist Mel Langton, at the official Lincoln Barons Charter auction in October 2015. The pair were drawn to its bright colours and theme of fashion and shopping, all of which reminded them of Maria who was kind and vivacious in life.

Two men removing a brightly coloured Lincoln Baron from a car Lynda says: “Maria loved shopping; she would always be going into charity shops, including St Barnabas shops, to find great bargains and alter them to suit her personality and style. When asked where she had obtained an outfit from, Maria was always proud to say charity shops! She even had a feather boa, just like Sir Walter is wearing when she was out collecting with her friends for St Barnabas over many years.”

The Baron has been residing in Lynda and Andrew’s kitchen/diner ever since they won the auction, brightening up their home and reminding them of Maria every day.

About the care Maria received from St Barnabas, Andrew says: “Nothing was too much trouble for the staff, everything she needed was made available and the care was exceptional.”

Lynda adds: “The staff made sure that the whole time Maria was in the Hospice, she could be surrounded around the clock by close friends, which meant a lot to her and us too. Her funeral in Manchester saw people flying in from across the world, as she had made so many friends through her years of traveling.

“We are so grateful to St Barnabas for all they have done to support Maria, her friends and us as a family.”

The couple are looking to move out of Lincolnshire next year and wanted to donate the Baron to the charity which is very close to their hearts.

Lynda says: “Sir Walter needs to stay in Lincolnshire, and we’re very happy he will be greeting visitors to the Inpatient Unit in Lincoln when it reopens. This is where he belongs, and it’s where we said goodbye to Maria, so it is very fitting.”

Andrew comments: “If it makes just one person smile when they come through the doors during a difficult time of their life, then the Baron’s donation is all worth it.”

Thank you, Lynda and Andrew, for your generous donation. We have no doubt that Sir Walter will bring many smiles to staff, volunteers, patients, and their families when the Inpatient Unit reopens in November!

Man and woman sitting on a wooden bench with behind them a brightly coloured statue of Lincoln Baron

Care for a Cuppa in memory of Jenny Kenton

Aimee Furneaux and her family in Branston hosted a Care for a Cuppa fundraiser on Saturday 20th August, raising a whopping £1,230!

Aimee, her sister Faye, and their father Paul hosted the event for dozens of family members and friends, who enjoyed delicious cakes over tea, coffee and soft drinks, and helped raise vital funds for their local Hospice.

The event was in memory of Aimee and Faye’s mother Jenny Kenton, who was a patient at St Barnabas Hospice before her death in March 2022.

A man and three women at a wedding. The man wears a dark grey suit, the woman next to him a light blue dress, the next person is the bride in white holding a bouquet and on the right the mother of the bride in light pink. Underneath a white banner with their names in blue.

Aimee says: “The dignity, respect, love and care they showed mum during her final few days will never be forgotten. The amazing service they provide to the people of Lincolnshire must never be taken for granted and should be supported and protected at all costs.”

Care for a Cuppa is a new campaign by St Barnabas Hospice, which encourages supporters to put the kettle on and host their own coffee morning, to raise vital funds for the charity.

To find out more about Care for a Cuppa or to get started on hosting your own, click here.

For every pound raised for St Barnabas, 74p goes straight towards delivering, and improving the care and support the charity offers to over 12,000 people every year. The other 26p goes towards generating future income.

Secondary school teacher smashes fundraising goal for her children

On Friday 19th August, St Barnabas Hospice shared a story about patient Sam Pickersgill, a 47-year old mother of two with a progressive brain and leptomeningeal disease. Doctors sadly do not know how long she has left, but Sam knows what she wants to do with the time she has: Give her children great memories to treasure.

Sam started a GoFundMe, hoping to raise £1,000. On Thursday 25th August, that total stands over £4,700! A fantastic result thanks to the generosity of the community, and the number keeps going up.

On top of this, there have been offers from organisations and individuals to give Sam and her family a getaway holiday, as well as local equestrian centres offering Sam’s horse-obsessed daughter Hattie riding lessons. St Barnabas Hospice are also hoping to find an organisation who can help 10-year old Dominic with a football experience.

Sam is a much-loved secondary school teacher, who has inspired thousands of people in her community through her work. Many of the people who have donated on her GoFundMe or offered support via social media remember her fondly from their school days.

Former student Carly Young shares some memories of having Sam as a teacher: “In 2017 I moved schools to attend the Priory Witham Academy, where Sam was my Head of Year. I was previously told by every teacher that there was no chance of me getting anywhere. We bonded from the get-go and Sam made me believe in myself.Blonde woman wearing white T-shirt and black trousers holding young girl with short hair and sunglasses in outdoors setting. With caption underneath "Sam and Carly Young"

“I have so many great memories from school with Sam, my favourite has to be on sports day when I ran the 100m for my tutor group. Sam was at the finish line shouting my name and as I ran I just wanted to make her proud. For coming first place, Sam gave me a big hug and told me how proud she was of me.

“She even took time to write a reference for my university application, and bearing in mind it was the Christmas holidays she did it for me during her time off! I’m now going to be attending university studying mental health in September and that is all because of her showing me how to believe in myself.

“She wasn’t just my teacher, she saved my life and I wouldn’t be where I am today without her. Sam, I’ll always look at the moon for you.”

Another former student, Kaisha, says: “We would always call Sam ‘Mrs P’. She taught me through my later stages of science in year 10 and 11 and became my form tutor in year 12. Mrs P was such an amazing teacher, and made sure you were seen and heard, making sure you were okay.

“It’s amazing to see so many fellow former students support Sam. I think it says a lot about the kind of person Sam is and how much she means to us, even though most of us have been out of school for 5+ years.”

Sarah Baker (née Waby) also has great memories of Sam, saying: “I was taught by her from 2008 to 2013 and she made science so fun!

“She always made time to explain things and would get us all up and interacting to help us to fully understand certain topics. She helped us all so much through our GCSE’s too, making revision cards and packs all off her own back.

“Sam was such an approachable teacher and always found a way to make you laugh. She was one of the best teachers at Witham!”

If you can support Sam and her family, please visit her GoFundMe page: https://www.gofundme.com/f/give-my-children-something-to-look-forward-to.

Additionally, if you would like to support us to find ways to treat Dominic with anything football or Real Madrid related, please get in touch with St Barnabas Hospice via 01522 540 300 or by emailing fundraising@stbarnabashospice.co.uk

 

Top image: Sam and her husband Ro on their wedding day

City of Lincoln 10k runner Fiona: “Raising over £4,700 for St Barnabas is a very proud moment!”

One of Lincolnshire’s most popular charity road run events is back on Sunday 30th October 2022: the City of Lincoln 10k.

One participant of last year’s 10k is Fiona Brown, who ran in memory of her friend and neighbour Karen Chambers, who died in July 2020. Fiona had hoped to participate in the event that year but the run was cancelled due to the Covid pandemic, taking place on 31st October 2021 instead.

Fiona had already signed up for the 2020 Lincoln 10k but when she heard Karen’s terrible news, she decided to run in support of a charity of Karen’s choice. Karen and her husband Nick chose St Barnabas Hospice as they had been caring for Karen, and Fiona set up a JustGiving page with a target of £300.

In just three days Fiona managed to raise £1,000 and by the time she ran the 10k on rainy Sunday 31st October 2021, the total raised including GiftAid was a whopping £4702.18. Fiona ran the course with husband Chris and eldest son Declan, who she calls her ‘wingmen.’ Two men and blonde woman wearing blue T-shirts with picture of woman on.

Fiona says: “I can honestly say I loved every minute of it, despite the torrential rain! The bad weather did not put the crowds off from coming out to support us and for that I will always be grateful.

“It was an emotional day from start to finish and I think Karen would have been extremely proud of what we achieved. We have raised a massive amount of money in Karen’s memory for St Barnabas Hospice to help others, like they helped Karen and her family through such a difficult time.”

Fiona achieved a personal best, running the course in 1:17:20, after starting her training in June 2020. With the event now ten months in the past, she says she keeps up with her running but has not participated in any further charity races. However, Fiona says they if she does, she would support St Barnabas Hospice again.

After the race, Fiona said: “This journey has been a big part of my life for the last 16 months. We will all continue to keep Karen’s memory alive and remember her for the special, kind lady she was.

“Thank you everyone, from the bottom of my heart. To have raised over £4,700 for St Barnabas is a very proud moment for me!”

If you would like to sign up for this year’s City of Lincoln 10k, taking place on Sunday 30th October 2022, register here: https://stbarnabashospice.co.uk/events/lincoln10k-22/

Top picture: Fiona finishing the 10k, and a portrait of Karen.

Four women holding large white and blue presentation cheque in front of the red brick Inpatient Unit in Lincoln,

Register for the 25th Wine and Wisdom quiz

St Barnabas Hospice are delighted to announce the return of the popular Wine and Wisdom quiz at Waddington Village Hall on 15th October after a two-year absence. It’s the 25th time that this quiz is held and during St Barnabas Hospice’s 40 anniversary year, so it’s an extra special event!

Wine and Wisdom originally started in 1996 by widower John Davey in memory of his wife, Anne, who he was married to for 29 years. In 1992 Anne was admitted to our Inpatient Unit in Lincoln after being diagnosed with terminal cancer.

John was so touched by the care Anne and his whole family received there, that he decided to put on a quiz to raise funds for St Barnabas.

John said, “The Hospice was a truly wonderful place and the people there were incredibly kind. They took such good care of Anne but they also looked after the whole family too.

“I will always remember the night I fell asleep holding Anne’s hand and I awoke to find that a blanket had been placed over me by one of the kind people there. It’s only a small thing but it is something I will never forget and it really meant a lot.

“Wine and Wisdom began as a wonderful way to remember my wife and for our family and friends to remember her too. It also gave us an opportunity to raise money to help other families who need the valuable support of the Hospice.”

Wine and Wisdom crowd

This is St Barnabas Hospice’s longest-running event and has raised £34,460 over the years in support of end-of-life care in Lincolnshire. The quiz night has grown from a small event for family and friends, to a much-anticipated evening in the calendar of many in the community.

It is a chance to come together, have fun, show off your knowledge and of course raise vital funds for your local hospice.

Teams of 6-8 people can register for only £10 per head. Two bottles of wine, soft drinks and nibbles will be provided for each table but please feel free to bring your own drinks and food as there will be no bar available on the night.

If you are unable to put a team together, you can still register and we will create a team of individuals.

Make sure you register quickly, as places are limited! To register your place, visit: https://stbarnabashospice.co.uk/events/wine-and-wisdom/

For more information please contact the Fundraising team on 01522 540 300 or fundraising@stbarnabashospice.co.uk

Fundraiser to help give patient’s children something to look forward to

47-year old mother of two Sam Pickersgill from Newton on Trent was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2020 and received treatment for her condition.

Following a kick to the head from a horse in December 2021, Sam was brought in for a brain scan, which found progressive brain and leptomeningeal disease, limiting her life expectancy significantly.

Sam was referred to St Barnabas in January 2022 for psychological support and future planning to help her with the emotional difficulties and uncertainties that came with her diagnosis.

Mary, a Specialist Nurse Practitioner and Katie, a Health and Rehabilitation Support Worker from St Barnabas, took over her wellbeing and care planning in April.

They arranged for Sam to receive counselling, giving her a crucial safe space to talk about what she was feeling and what was happening to her and her family. They have also supported Sam maintain a level of independence with equipment to help her around the home.

Sadly, in July 2022, after enjoying a family holiday to Lanzarote, Sam was given the dreadful news that the metastasis had progressed further in the brain and leptomeningeal and that she is at high risk of sudden death.A man in black uniform and woman in white bridal gown with veil kissing on their wedding day.

Mary has played a crucial role in helping Sam and her husband Ro discuss with their children the serious topic of Sam’s limited time. The family feels that Mary helps them work through the difficult emotions and practicalities, as well as supporting them in finding the positive things in life.

Sam says: “Mary has been incredible; I don’t know how our family would have been able to handle this situation if we didn’t have her. She has kept me going and supported us throughout, from telling the children, to organising my own funeral and making sure it’s exactly how I want to be remembered.

“Mary made me realise I could take control of the situation and organise some wonderful times for everyone to remember and enabling me to spend my days comfortably at home around Ro, Hattie and Dominic.”

Mary has helped Sam facilitate a personalised care and support plan, with open discussions about what is important to Sam and the whole family. Financial support has also been given through the Welfare and Benefits team, as well as helping Sam list her final wishes. This is all part of the Advanced Care Planning which St Barnabas offers to patients and their families so they can focus on what’s really important to them – making the most of whatever time remains.

It was the couple’s 23rd Wedding Anniversary on Sunday 14th August. Unfortunately Sam was too unwell to attend a family meal, however later that day local legend Dan Hadfield performed a private Gary Barlow tribute concert in her parents’ garden, which Sam enjoyed surrounded by family and close friends.

St Barnabas continues to offer Sam and the family the psychological, emotional, physical and spiritual support when they need it.

Mary says: “When I first met Sam at her home, she threw her arms around me. From that point, I’ve seen her each week and have built a supporting relationship with the whole family. I have loved learning more about Sam the secondary school teacher, 14-year-old Hattie’s love of horses and 10-year-old Dominic’s obsession with Real Madrid.

Woman in white bridal gown and veil with young boy wearing khaki jacket “Sam has invested a lot of time supporting others in her life, and I feel it’s a privilege to do something in return to help her and her loved ones during this difficult time. St Barnabas will be with Sam when and where she needs us.

“We cannot change the outcome, but we can make every day count until then.”

Sam is fundraising to give Hattie and Dominic something to look forward to. Sam’s health makes it difficult for her to know day-to-day how she is going to feel, so she’s hoping that the family can do something for the children during such a difficult time.

Sam says: “I want to give the children memories to treasure.”

If you can support Sam and her family, please visit her GoFundMe page: https://www.gofundme.com/f/give-my-children-something-to-look-forward-to.

Additionally, if you would like to support us find ways to treat Hattie with a horse experience, or Dominic with anything Real Madrid related, please get in touch with St Barnabas Hospice via 01522 540 300 or by emailing fundraising@stbarnabashospice.co.uk